Is there a wrong and right way to declutter? It depends on who you ask...
For me, I feel there are many right ways but there's really only one wrong way.
You can start with just a drawer, join the Minimalists in the #MinsGame, you can #konmari by category or you can go space by space. I've got my preferences and, like everything else I do, have learned the pros and cons of each style and have come up with a blend of my own. [Gotta love those overlaps!]
But. What about doing it wrong?
I believe that the only wrong thing you can do when it comes to decluttering is to declutter for the sake of decluttering.
It's kind of crazy how attached we can be to certain things - for real - have you ever stopped to ask yourself, "Why would I be heartbroken if that vase crashed to the ground?" It's just a thing and yet we connect it with SO many memories and emotions until it starts to take on a life of its own - until it starts to become a part of us. [BTW - I’m all about helping you break that connection!]
That's why, when you start decluttering without a WHY or a purpose behind it, you can empty your house and be smacked in the face by "The Void" - that awful, empty feeling that leaves you asking, "What now? Is that it? What's next? What do I do now?"
Decluttering for it's own sake may be a nice way to purge and clean up, but without a WHY and a purpose guiding the process, it will just keep coming back, keep getting in your way, keep holding you back from using your time to build the life you want rather than spending it on cleaning, maintaining, repairing, replacing and sorting your weekends away.
Yes, some amount will always be coming and going out of our homes - but if the need to do massive decluttering purges time and time again keeps coming up - what have you learned? What intentions have you taken and set or rather misplaced to make that an occurrence?
I ALWAYS encourage my clients to start with WHY - at this point I should probably be paying Simon Sinek for how often I use those three words.
When you know your WHY and the kind of life you want to create, making decisions about your stuff is WAY easier because you can immediately identify what brings you joy in this season, what you're going to need in this season and what will weigh you down.
I've compiled a list of questions - it's not an exhaustive list, but it will get you started - to ask yourself BEFORE you start the decluttering process so you can avoid "The Void" and avoid getting overrun by clutter ever again.
Questions To Ask BEFORE You Start Decluttering.
What is your current situation?
What is driving the urge to purge?
What are you desiring to achieve as a result of purging?
What are you looking forward to?
What situation are you heading into?
What do you need for this new situation?
What are your goals for this new situation?
What do you value?
What do you love?
What makes you feel good?
What kind of life do you want to live?
What do you need to bring that life about?
What does your perfect day look like?
What routines and habits do you want to create?
Who is your best self?
What does your best self need?
What does your best self love and want?
What are you hoping to let go of?
What are you hoping to keep?
How do you hope to feel after decluttering?
What kind of atmosphere do you want to create in your space?
What will you need to achieve that atmosphere?
What are you scared to let go of?
Why do you think you’re afraid to let it go?
How has that thing benefited your life?
What has brought about this accumulation in the first place?
What do you hope to learn during this process?
Like I said, it's not an exhaustive list but I hope that if you're thinking of decluttering on your own - or even if you want to connect with me to help guide you through the process - that these questions will help you get a grasp on the WHY behind your decluttering so that you are left with a home that supports the kind of life that you want to create!
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